Whether talking with our middle schoolers, college student teachers, or even parents, we found that teen dating violence is poorly understood, almost universally. We learned that when defining both the problem and the solution, it’s important to start on the most basic level with everyone, no matter their expertise. Always define the terms and language you use. For example, don’t assume that everyone has the same definition of “bad” or “unsafe” behavior in mind. Once everyone has a shared set of terms and standards, conversations become much more productive.